Wedding Inspiration….England Part One

Many of you have been expecting me to be all bride-zillary and to be posting regular Wedding updates on my blog. I haven’t blogged any posts about our Wedding plans purely for the fact that our Wedding is a very personal event that I don’t want to broadcast…..as far as my partner and I are concerned we want to make a real go at our marriage and are planning on spending the rest of our lives together. With this in mind the Wedding day (or days) actually seem rather inferior to the excitement our of lives together. Still, as tradition goes our Wedding is happening and it is going to be an amazing celebration of our love and dedication to and for one other.

For those that are close to my fiance and I, you will have seen the many inspiration boards we have already put together. We haven’t created our final inspiration board yet but playing around with things on our other ones have really helped us decide what we want for our English Wedding Reception.

Keeping things on the private side (for the moment anyways) means I don’t want to share too many details about what we have recently planned and arranged…but what I will do is blog some of my favourite inspiration boards found on the internet…you never know one may be very close to what we are having.

Enjoy xOx

 

 

Pictures are from Google images with thanks.

Published in: on March 28, 2012 at 7:38 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Lost

I’m feeling a little lost this week, like I’ve stepped out of my own bed but walked into the wrong life. I seem to be straying from my comfortable and happy path of life and I’m not completely sure as to how or why this has happened.

So I turned to research for some advice….big mistake.

Each post was written by different people with different life experiences: there where doctors, psychologists,  buddhist teachers and normal people who have gone through difficult situations. Yet the differences between each person didn’t account for the fact that each post shared one single point:

In order to find your way you have to change who you are as a person!!

At first I thought, yes ok that could make sense….I’m feeling lost because I need to change who I am.  If I was change who I am and how I acted then my life would be happier and I would be on the ‘correct path’ right?

Wrong.

I have studied psychology, I have studied counselling but as a normal person who seeks to be back on my path, I have realised that posts like the above mentioned are a waste of my time. I do believe that every person should be aware of how themselves and their words and actions can effect those that are around them and I would definitely class myself as a person who has a high level of self awareness…I’m always apologising for things that aren’t even my fault.

But being aware of myself isn’t helping me find my way back to my happy place. 

There are short-term solutions: wine, cigarettes, crying, binge-eating….but none of these push me back in the right direction. I can’t explain why I feel so lost, so emotional; I cannot explain why everything is so much more difficult to deal with this week, but I do know that I can start finding my way back by reminding myself of the awesome feeling of love. 

So tomorrow I am going to start my day with a Bible reading, a kiss from my fiance and a great cup of coffee. I am going to listen to music and read books. I am going to eat good, healthy food and drink lots of water. I am going to enjoy every conversation I have with my fiance, family and friends. And once the day has ended I am going to say thank you that I have had a day experiencing love. 

I know that once I stop focussing on why I feel lost and start enjoying that which I love…I will find my way, as the person I am, back to the place that I long to be.

I’m starting to feel better already =D

xOx

Published in: on March 21, 2012 at 9:14 pm  Comments (2)  
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Fiction not fact but I want the latter…A poem

Time is patient, time is the key
But time so often suffocates me
Time is a healer, this part is true
But I wish, how I wish, that we could meet you.

I know it’s not about ‘you’ or ‘me’
But ‘us’ I must consider
All of my actions will guarantee
That our future brings ‘us’ all together.

Time is precious, time we can see
Time shows you as ‘our’ destiny
Time can be for granted, this I know well
But I promise that in time, to you I will tell.

Patient I will try, I will try to be
But I cannot promise to surrender
Until you are here and ‘us’ becomes ‘we’
I will continue to dream of you forever!

“And when i see you
I really see you upside down
But my brain knows better
It picks you up and turns you around
Turns you around, turns you around”

Lyrics by Death Cab For Cutie – A Lack of Color~
Poem written by hanandherattitude – March 2012

 

Published in: on March 14, 2012 at 8:07 pm  Leave a Comment  
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40 days and 40 nights – Week 3

Just a quick update….

Lent is going well.

Yay!!

As much as a relief it is to say that, it has been a tough challenge. I would love nothing more than to sit down with a packet of biccies or Eccles cakes and to eat as many as I could, but a pledge is a pledge and I’m determined to stick to it – even if there is STILL  3 weeks and 3 days to go!

Still, the point of lent wasn’t just to give up certain food items – it was to learn about self-discipline. I have to say that I have surprised myself this year so far. If I want a cake or see some sweets I realllllllly like I shake the thought out of my head and eat a piece of fruit or cheese instead. I am now aware that I can rid thoughts that I don’t want in my head and I can actually say NO to something and mean it. For the next 3 weeks I want to try to say NO (and mean NO) to certain things and I want to rid my head of negative thoughts. If I can pass temptation by focussing my thoughts onto something else then I wonder what else I can achieve?

I hope that other lent followers are doing well and are rising to the challenge. Keep up the hard work people…the light is at the end of the tunnel.

xOx

P.S. I would love to hear how you are overcoming your lent challenge. Feel free to post your stories below =D

Published in: on March 13, 2012 at 8:52 pm  Comments (3)  
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….Of the week

1. My amazing man sure knows the way to my heart…..

………with a luuuuuurvy heart-shaped Krispy Kreme doughnut of course!! Yum yum =D 

2. These outfits are on my list of Spring must-haves…..totally luff them!!

3. Peppermint tea; need I say anymore.

4. Michael Kiwanuka’s album is out today and I am MEGA excited to listen to it!!

Hope you are all having a good week. Keep an eye out for my lent update tomorrow and project 52 is back this week (and it’s a gooden)

Pictures taken with my own personal phone and from google images with thanks.

xOx

Outragous or Comical…you decide!!!

There I was ranting on about the modern-day segregated gender roles when I stumbled upon this…..

 

 

….and before you ask YES these jeans are for real and have been printed by clothing line Madhouse. Clearly the 1900’s gender roles are still apparent in todays generation.

Thoughts on these jeans?

xOx
Picture from my FAVOURITE magazine ever Stylist Mag with thanks.

Published in: on March 7, 2012 at 8:52 am  Comments (7)  
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Running a house…becoming a wife….

Gender roles in a traditional old-english marriage.

I have been doing a little research recently into the roles of men and women within a marriage. Although modern-day roles seem to be more integrated I was intrigued to find out how different gender roles were back in the ‘good old days.’

According to my research the roles of a male and female within a marriage setting derives from the social construction in which such beings grow up. In 1955 Parsons created two family structures. Structure A shows total segregation between male and female roles; males would be the breadwinner, they would go to ‘the office’ per say, and would be highly education and very qualified. Women however, would take on the responsibilities of the family home; cooking and cleaning; looking after and educating their children. As far as decision-making would go women would take on this responsibility as they were the sole provider of care for the house and their children.

Structure B highlights integrated roles between men and women. Both men and women would be allowed to work and both would equally be educated and would take care of their home and their children. Decisions would be made together with neither gender dominating the other partner. This structure is, what I believe to be, the common structure of gender roles in our society. Why then do so many marriages end up in divorce? 

Lets travel back to the 1920’s where men and women joined together in holy matrimony very aware that a marriage signified their union as a couple, but highlighted their roles as individuals.

The role of a male and female in the 1920’s was exactly how Parsons describes it in Structure A Men would go to work and earn money to support their wives and children whereas women would stay at home. World War II saw a change in these gender roles however. With men away at war many women were allowed to take on employment roles. Yet when the war was over and many men returned from battle the majority of women were forced back into their original positions as homemaker. It was mainly only widowers that were allowed to regain their positions of employment in order to support themselves and their children.

In August, 1920 women were given the opportunity to vote. They were also allowed to work. This change in roles saw the beginning of an era in which traditional family structure adapted; men and women would start to become equal regardless of their gender.

Men and women still to this day do not have equal rights but there is a vast amount of equality between them in many countries. What I find difficult to comprehend is why marriages are less successful now that women are seen as equal to men? Before women’s equality took force marriage was a sacred act that would legally and emotionally (and by emotionally I mean that both men and women would actually attempt to stick with their marriage partner – adultery was less heard of in those days than it is today) bind a couple until ‘death do us part’

I don’t think I am saying that the change in gender roles is the reason why marriages don’t last or are even brought into the relationship equation, but I do think that such a change in gender roles is a factor as to why marriages don’t last as long now-a-days. I cannot help but feel that if gender roles, maybe not as extreme as the early 1900’s, were still in place today marriages would last a lot longer…but this thought does come from an up-bringing of black and white movies portraying segregated gender roles. Such movies implied that with segregated gender roles homes were happier; a man and women both new their place within their marriage and their lives were happy, not content, actually happy.

My research has been interesting and has, being honest, brought out the little traditionalist side of me that is kept hidden away and often over-looked…but in researching this topic it has brought to my attention that a change in gender roles does in fact highlight the lack of long-lasting marriages. In saying this I am now wondering what actually is a marriage?

Back to the research I go……..
xOx

P.S. I would love to hear your views on this topic. Comment away =D

Published in: on March 6, 2012 at 1:01 pm  Comments (2)  
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Words of the day…..

“You’re never gonna be
Anybody else
You’re never gonna see
Until you see yourself
So come on, come on
See how it goes
Come on, come on
Take a deep breath
And don’t let go”
~Bethany Joy Galeotti

Published in: on March 2, 2012 at 8:50 pm  Comments (2)  
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Running a house…becoming a wife

Rustic cooking with Han.

I love cooking and I especially love learning about and creating new dishes. Over the last few weeks I have tried out some experimental cooking and have also “followed” some recipes. Here is what I have made so far….

1. Valentines Day had me being creative in the kitchen (as well as with arts and crafts) I wanted to express my love (cheeese) in a new but sweet way so I made some chocolate covered, vanilla love heart, exclamation mark, biccies.

Step One: Lightly grease a baking tray with butter and a smidge of flour.

Step Two: Place some flour into a mixing bowl (remember this is rustic cooking with Han so there are no exact measurements)

Step Three: Add some butter and rub together to make fine breadcrumbs.

Step Four: Stir in some sugar and vanilla extract (about a table-spoon of each) to creat a firm dough.

Step Five: Roll out the dough and cut out heart shapes.

Step Six: Bake in the oven (make sure it’s preheated) at 180*C/gas mark 4 for 15-20 minutes (or until slightly coloured)

Step Seven: Leave to cool. Once cold covered in melted chocolate. I added pink sparkles (edible ones) for a bit of jazz.

2. This week I made some guacamole….rustic style. (For anyone who is wondering what I mean by rustic I mean leaving things as lumpy or bumpy as they are…you’ll understand why in a mojo)

Step One: Peel and chop some avocado. Squirt a bit of lemon juice over the avocado so it doesn’t brown in the air.

Step Two: Caramalise (cover the ingredients in butter and fry on a low heat until sticky) some chopped red onion and red pepper.

 

 

Step Three: Place the avocado and caramalised onion and pepper (including the lovely oil that will be left in the pan) into a mixing bowl and mash together.

Step Four: Add around 2-3 table spoons (depending on your taste) of fat-free natural/greek yoghurt and stir.

Step Five: Leave to cool then serve.

I served my guacamole with peri peri chicken and my home-made paprika and ham potatoes.

Enjoy xOx 

Published in: on March 1, 2012 at 8:17 pm  Comments (4)  
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