Sermon Sunday

“Change yourself in order to change your circumstance.”~Steve Sanger, Personal Trainer.

I want to start my post today by asking you a question: When you come out of a trial/bad time, do you keep up that significant change that pulled you through or do you fall back into the laziness of your previous thoughts and actions?
I for one know that, when things are going great it is easy for me to slip right back into a previous routine, often the routine that got me into a trial in the first place. No wonder my circumstances start to decline again.

Keeping up a personal change is hard work – sometimes it is even harder that the trial itself. Changing yourself for a better outcome in life is often easier because you know you can do something to drag yourself out of your pit. Yet the last thing you want to do when everything is rosy is to keep working hard for a better future; you want to relax, enjoy the good times as you know the bad times are just lurking around the corner ready to pounce.

Sound familiar?

How does one go about keeping up a personal change?

The key is to fight laziness.

Laziness attacks us all; be it mental or physical laziness, we are all lazy at some point in our lives.The ‘I can’t be bothered’ or ‘I’ll do it later’ attitude is what drags us down into negative pastures. Laziness, in its most common form, is the want for an ‘easier life’ Here is scenario for you:

Imagine you’re a cake lover but you know your love for cake is causing the increase in those extra pounds you have put on. So you decide to cut cake out of your diet. Over a few months you notice the vast improvement in your health by airing your slimmer waist line (at this point I would just like to say that quitting cake alone will not help you lose loads of weight – there is more to weight loss than this but I am using the cake situation as an example – bare with me) As a slimmer, healthier, happier you, you feel proud at what you have achieved. One day you are hungry but ‘cannot be bothered’ to cook. Now that you are slim again you think “ah I’ll grab a piece of cake it’s easier; one piece of cake wont hurt me.” As that one piece become two pieces, you fall back into your previous routine. A few weeks down the line you notice that you feel groggy and your body shape is changing again.

YOU HAVE TO STICK AT YOUR PERSONAL CHANGE!!

My advice is this: Grab laziness by the balls and throw it off a cliff….you don’t need it in your life! Keeping your mind and body active are great ways to keep up a personal change that you have made. There are thousands of surveys that clearly show exercise helps you de-stress and sleep better: a great way to shake off that possible down/negative period you may be going through.

And we all know that an active mind means things get done. Writing a list is a great way to be pro-active and keep up with personal change.

My thoughts this week have aimed to show you that, if you make a personal change, whether to lose weight or to stop being easily angered, making the change is only the first step to bring you out of your trial. You have to work at personal change in order to achieve personal growth. Personal growth allows that change previously made to become deeper, saving you from falling into the pit of having to learn the same lesson over and over again.

So get up off your butt and get yourself sorted…..The New Year is a great time to sort yourself and your life out. It is time that we all overcame that lazy bug and got things done — no more excuses people!

Good luck xOx

P.S. For hints and tips on a healthier you check out the following awesome blogs by my trusted friends; Personal Trainer Steve  http://stevesangerpt.com  and GlutenFreeBlogger Sarah http://theglutenfreeblogger.com

 

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Thoughts for today and three little inspiring quotes…

Someone once told me that what angers you about others is often a characteristic you will find within yourself. Recently I have come to understand what is meant by this.

If I look back upon my life I can see the same situations appearing over and over again. I sat down this weekend to ask myself ‘why?’

Why do I end up in the same situations? Why do I end up acting the same way? Why do I always trust the wrong people? Why do others feel they sometimes cannot trust me?

I have taken apart countless situations from my past and have found there to be two route problems; how I have behaved and how others have behaved. This was not an easy task, easy being to blame others and pretend I had nothing to do with what went wrong. However, finding the courage to understand and accept my part in certain issues not only allows me to change how I react but also allows me to stop them from happening again.

(This may all seem a bit vague as I’m not really willing to go into what has happened to spark this off…apologies but bare with me – there is a point to this blog – I promise!!)

I have come to realise that my behaviour usually consists of three things:

1. I have a biiiiggg, goby mouth at times and more often than not, what I say as a reaction is nearly always interpreted as my true feelings.
2. I have an uncanny ability to trust the wrong people (confidence issue – untrustworthy people are usually the people who will build you up, making you feel good about yourselves.)
3. I am quick to react rather than finding out the facts (which is ironic considering my conscious decision to over-think every action I make)

The above I can now identify as present in most of my past. They are characteristics I have identified in myself because they usually bug the hell out of me in others.

If certain habits are present in my life then how can I justify my anger at others when I represent the same things? I cannot change another person, it is their choice to decide how they want to live and the person they want to be. But I can try and change my bad habits/characteristics. I don’t feel that anyone has the right to mouth off about others (including me) when not one of us is perfect in any way.

So what am I going to do about it I hear you ask?

I have made a little list of my goals due to start this week:

* To put a stop to these irritating things I keep doing (this will be a gradual process but the point is – I’m starting)
* To not rise to the anger I feel when others hurt me (getting angry cannot be avoided but the important factor here is how you react to such anger)
* To always find out the facts first before making any decision
* To be aware that people may not want to change and to accept them as they are
* To keep myself to myself, if you don’t tell people your life’s story then you cannot blame them for passing the information on

Man, this whole ‘finding out who you are’ journey is epic, but stressful!!

So there you have it. My thoughts for the day, after a long and fairly crappy yet insightful week.

To finish off my thoughts I wanted to share with you the following three quotes…….

Arguing with a fool proves there are two.
Doris M. Smith

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few;
and let those be well-tried before you give them your confidence.
George Washington

Look to be treated by others
as you have treated others.

Publius Syrus

Have a good day all xOx

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BeLiEvE

Believe that
Endings are
Life’s
Interesting
Expeditions through
Various
Entrances.

BELIEVE in God.
BELIEVE in love.
BELIEVE in me.

BELIEVE!

 

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Thoughts for the week: A change in perspective

I remember the very first time (plus a couple more trips) hubby-to-be took me to London….I hated it – you can ask him. I was miserable; no trees, no grass, no perfect blue sky; no silence, no peace and no clean air. London was too busy for me – even crossing the road or catching the tube made me fall apart on the inside and the out. Every early trip was counted down till our return back to the country/beach…I actually started to crave the smell of fresh air and horse poop.

But hubby-to-be persisted with me and I kept going. THE NIGHT was clearly a biiiig change in my opinion of London…..if hubby-to-be went to all that trouble to plan an amazing night (which turned out to be the best night ever) then London must not be so bad. That night H-T-B showed me the exciting side to London; the landmarks, the fame, the money, the swanky hotels, the West End (MEGA LUFF) the extortionate prices (we wont go there) and the big city at night. But H-T-B also introduced to me the opportunities London can hold for a person…..you can turn up in London as a nobody and with either hard work and dedication, become a somebody OR you can remain a nobody going about your daily life. London doesn’t care, London doesn’t force you to be somebody you don’t want to be.

London inspires. London provides more than enough inspiration to encourage a person to take a big leap. Every time I visit London (which believe me is nowhere near enough now I’ve grown to adore it) I feel this strange sense of security; I feel secure in myself to strive rather than fall apart.

But London also respects. London’s diversity embraces you as an individual. London doesn’t say ‘Hannah change your shoes’ or ‘Hannah don’t wear jeans and a hoody’ London says ‘Hannah, what are you going to do today?’

I embrace London and its emphasis on individuality and I always leave wanting more.

It is now of my opinion that you can either love London or hate it. But a change in perspective has made me feel that living in London and hating it is far less painful than being inspired by London – inspiration is often a dangerous and challenging thing – its like an aphrodisiac cocktail without the bad hangover and regret. But used in the right way and inspiration can be the driving force that makes you take that scary step.

for me, London (and yes I am still talking about the city) doesn’t make me realise that dreams can come true, it forces me to understand that I actually WANT my dreams to come true. It is amazing that one place can make a person achieve something, especially for me.

Who knows I may even be daring enough to move there one day. (I said ‘one day’ hubby-to-be lol)

Find what it is that inspires you and use that as your driving force to achieve your dreams. But above everything don’t change who you are – the world may or may not accept you but remain true to yourself regardless. The world is full of opportunities but if one doesn’t grab you have the confidence in yourself to make the opportunities that you want.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!

xOx

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Thoughts of the week: The hardships of being a creative….a few words.

I am a starter – never a finisher.

I do not stick to one job.

I abuse the sad times – ignoring the good.

Often craving a desperate sob.

Emotions are the be all and end all;

My life’s inspiration they are.

Dreams are the release of what’s locked away

Never in reach, but always a far.

With  multiple personalities;

A planner that always wanders away.

A singer, a writer, an actress and more

Living for the future never-ceasing the day.
A song can either tear me apart

or make me erratically happy.

Yet I sleep with my ipod blasting in my ears.

Wishing for productions, performances, and tears.

I do not think logically, mathematically or scientifically.

I do not have structure, I cannot make plans.

I can represent a character, whether novel form or film.

Often forgetting reality, loosing grip in my hands.

Yet I’m so very glad of my grounding

The foundation that gets me through.

Of faith and love and friendship.

I’d be nothing without any of you.

Written by hanandherattitude, June 2012.

 

 

 

 

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**Words of Inspiration**

I’m feeling the need for inspiration and I’ve found some beautiful quotes on the internet that have done the trick. Here are some of my favourites….

…. enjoy xOx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Be the kind of woman……

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**Thoughts For The Week**

I hate lessons that have to be learnt the hard way, but then, if lessons were easy to learn – they wouldn’t be lessons right?!

I have got a bug. No! Not A bug. THE bug! The performing bug. I just blinking knew it would return to haunt me at some point in my life and here it is right at the time I least expected I would need it….

During the last few months I have found myself re-living insecurities, forcing myself into situations I am very uncomfortable with; attempting to second guess the feelings and emotions of others and facing a demon which has troubled me for many years. All of which catapulted at me within the space of one classroom, during one lesson. The question is not how I could have let this happen…again, but rather, what am I, as a teacher, going to do about it? Eeeek!!

Racking my brains for professional ways to get a point across to my pupils, without them further intimidating me or their peers, is very challenging. Lining them all up against a wall and screaming “BULLYING IS NOT OK” is the best idea I have come up with so far.

This evening I sat with a cuppa in one hand and my wonderful iPod in my ears. I sat with no background noise and just focused on the music each song would play; on the words that would enter my mind in such a striking sense. It is funny how a song, one simple song, can transport you to a different place. How one song can envelop your whole being, making emotions surge through you body faster than the blood pumps around you. Tonight I was taken back to times when I was low; unhappy. Times where I couldn’t escape the intimidation and humiliation that I would face just by waking up each morning. I felt sick to my stomach remembering those times. And yet in the painful memories I remembered what pulled me through….faith, music, dance and drama. As much of a pain in the ass being a wanna-be-performer was to myself and those around me, I got through some of the hardest times of my teenage years by getting on that stage. 

As an adult, and especially as a teacher, I find it utterly heart-breaking watching pupils bully and intimidate their peers; more so than the bullying I was a victim of. At 16 I finally realised that this kind of behaviour was not acceptable in my life – that it was not acceptable full stop! It is my mission to teach every pupil of mine about equality – about being who you truly are despite what others think of you. But what do you do when you aren’t getting through? I do what I always do….I run to the stage.

Performing is my therapy; it is my way of dealing with life’s challenges. Whether that be part of a group, on a stage or in front of my own mirror…..performing is my escape. If I can channel all my anger and my emotions into one bundle of adrenalin, then I know I can perform to the best of my ability. Once I have performed I feel so elated that the anger I previously felt, doesn’t seem as bad. Whether I am teaching Drama or English, Maths or Science I aim to encourage all of my pupils to focus on their task, rather than what their peers or I think. Easier said then done I know but the basic implications that they have the right to be individual – to be themselves -speaks wonders for them and for their work.

Facing the issue of bullying once again in my adult life is something I have desperately wanted to avoid. This time around I may not be the victim of bullying but I am baring witness to such acts. Bullying is NOT ok people!!! As much as my peers or my pupils may hate me I will continue to enforce this – BULLYING IS NOT OK!! 

Thankfully my performing bug has returned and not only to help me but to help my pupils also. I want to encourage and inspire my students through the issues that they are facing in life but most of all, I want my pupils to realise that being different is ok – being different is beautiful.

Life is difficult…we are all very aware of this but finding something or someone to help you through its challenges, makes your journey that little bit less daunting. Performing may not be your option but something will be. Whatever or however you choose to fight through life’s barriers remember – you are beautiful in every way. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.  

xOx

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What God wants you to know…..

I saw this today and thought it was so lovely, and so true; I just had to re-post it….

“Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and melt all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. God loves you with the very air you breath, the very light that touches your skin, the very ground that supports you. Love is everywhere – melt your barriers and you will have love in abundance.”
~What God wants you to know.

 

Published in: on January 23, 2012 at 9:24 pm  Comments (1)  
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The Rainbow..A poem

When you see a rainbow
Sit and think of me
And my promise to protect you
And fill your hearts with glee

With love and adoration
To you my child I hold
But at the bottom of this rainbow
Is not a pot of gold

I have so much more planned for you
A life of happiness
So follow me and trust my word
And you’ll truly blessed

Written by Hanzattitude – January 2012
Rainbow Picture: Flixr

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